Relationship trouble with a friend...

Help.

I don't know what to do.

My only friend and only person I really talk with for 9 years told me he loves me. But he lives in the USA so I told him we should find other people because long-distance relationship won't work I think.

Now he's saying he'll never feel happy again and that I should live my life without him and leave him alone.

But I need him in my life otherwise I'll have no friends, nobody. I feel heart broken. Too many emotions. I can't handle this before bed.

We are emotionally dependent on each other. We were very close and shared everything. Were also planning to go to a virtual furry convention on VR chat and have a great time. The closest thing we'll be to getting together.

Shit ):

Said I shouldn't call him again): I feel so confused and almost like crying. Such an emotional wreck

-changed title because it looked bad and clickbaity, sorry I was very upset with myself...

Can't help much but I can say this: I was in a long distance relationship and as long as the chance of meeting is there, it can work. 

Have you been in this long distance relationship for the whole 9 years? If you have, you should ask yourself why you are distancing yourself from him now that he's told you he loves you. What really changed?

I'm in a long distance relationship.  I spend 2-3 months a year with her.  It can work.  Not going to say long distance doesn't make it harder, but it's not impossible.

Help.

I don't know what to do.

My only friend and only person I really talk with for 9 years told me he loves me. But he lives in the USA so I told him we should find other people because long-distance relationship won't work I think.

Now he's saying he'll never feel happy again and that I should live my life without him and leave him alone.

But I need him in my life otherwise I'll have no friends, nobody. I feel heart broken. Too many emotions. I can't handle this before bed.

We are emotionally dependent on each other. We were very close and shared everything. Were also planning to go to a virtual furry convention on VR chat and have a great time. The closest thing we'll be to getting together.

Shit ):

Said I shouldn't call him again): I feel so confused and almost like crying. Such an emotional wreck

Why did you push him away?   Saying stuff like "we should find other people"  is not going to help.   Seems like a self destructive impulse.

Seek proper help.

I think Space Cowgirl's right, friend.

My only friend and only person I really talk with for 9 years told me he loves me. But he lives in the USA so I told him we should find other people because long-distance relationship won't work I think.

Sounds like you have been making a long distance relationship work for 9 years all ready, it seems he's just suggesting a different one?

You really should call him back - imagine what a mess he must be after opening his heart to you?

And as others have suggested, get some professional counselling to talk stuff through.

I'm a little confused here.  Is he into guys and you're not?  Is that the problem?  Sorry if I'm being obtuse about this.

If that isn't the problem then I think you might want to consider couples counselling.  I'm sure there must be counsellors that can work remotely with both of you through zoom.  They do a great job at breaking down barriers in communication.  They might help in repairing this relationship or at least clarifying things so that it's less painful for everyone.

Thanks for the PM about the films.
You could have mentioned this. 

Everything is good and a bit scary.

Message him, you have literally everything to lose.
There is nothing to lose through communication.

Love you, buddy, good luck.
PM me.

Help.

I don't know what to do.

My only friend and only person I really talk with for 9 years told me he loves me. But he lives in the USA so I told him we should find other people because long-distance relationship won't work I think.

Now he's saying he'll never feel happy again and that I should live my life without him and leave him alone.

But I need him in my life otherwise I'll have no friends, nobody. I feel heart broken. Too many emotions. I can't handle this before bed.

We are emotionally dependent on each other. We were very close and shared everything. Were also planning to go to a virtual furry convention on VR chat and have a great time. The closest thing we'll be to getting together.

Shit ):

Said I shouldn't call him again): I feel so confused and almost like crying. Such an emotional wreck

Nice copypasta, I like it. Suits your forum character pretty well tbh.

Quote from: Denspressure on November 10, 2020, 01:28:35 PM

Help.

I don't know what to do.

My only friend and only person I really talk with for 9 years told me he loves me. But he lives in the USA so I told him we should find other people because long-distance relationship won't work I think.

Now he's saying he'll never feel happy again and that I should live my life without him and leave him alone.

But I need him in my life otherwise I'll have no friends, nobody. I feel heart broken. Too many emotions. I can't handle this before bed.

We are emotionally dependent on each other. We were very close and shared everything. Were also planning to go to a virtual furry convention on VR chat and have a great time. The closest thing we'll be to getting together.

Shit ):

Said I shouldn't call him again): I feel so confused and almost like crying. Such an emotional wreck

Nice copypasta, I like it. Suits your forum character pretty well tbh.

I don't think this is a copy pasta, is it?

Quote from: Definitely Not Swedish on November 14, 2020, 02:25:21 AM

Quote from: Denspressure on November 10, 2020, 01:28:35 PM

Help.

I don't know what to do.

My only friend and only person I really talk with for 9 years told me he loves me. But he lives in the USA so I told him we should find other people because long-distance relationship won't work I think.

Now he's saying he'll never feel happy again and that I should live my life without him and leave him alone.

But I need him in my life otherwise I'll have no friends, nobody. I feel heart broken. Too many emotions. I can't handle this before bed.

We are emotionally dependent on each other. We were very close and shared everything. Were also planning to go to a virtual furry convention on VR chat and have a great time. The closest thing we'll be to getting together.

Shit ):

Said I shouldn't call him again): I feel so confused and almost like crying. Such an emotional wreck

Nice copypasta, I like it. Suits your forum character pretty well tbh.

I don't think this is a copy pasta, is it?

At least it very much reads like most of the copy pasta I've read so far. If it's not, I suggest we make it copypasta now.

At least it very much reads like most of the copy pasta I've read so far. If it's not, I suggest we make it copypasta now.

If it's real, you might want to attempt having a little empathy.

Friends come and go, but a good enemy can last a lifetime.

Friends come and go, but a good enemy can last a lifetime.

That's because a good enemy will kill you quickly, therefore ensuring they so last your entire lifetime.

Maybe something changed or maybe that was just where things were headed.

In response to original post.

The good news is that if you live in a major city - you could probably meet ten people a day for ten years and still have ten times that left. Just think of all of the people you would really like out of all of those people and someof them must like you. Start talking to people and know that failure is not the end.

Also I have difficulty believing this isn't based on some misconception or misunderstanding - a rational thinking person should be able to understand and respect your position. But I'm possibly wrong.

I'm actually not a relationship guy.

You have a wonderful relationship with the spackle mites!

Your not suggesting I'm in league with.... the spackle mites...

By the way, i thought at first that the website being down was just my computer, but it actually crashed, right? I don't remeber exactly...

Ive been having so much computer trouble lately, i don't remember what happened.

Website is down on avg 16h/day

By the way, i thought at first that the website being down was just my computer, but it actually crashed, right? I don't remeber exactly...

It was down for a bit a couple days ago.

Sorry for not replying sooner.

Thanks everyone who decided to say something helpful and informative and nice.

 We talked again some days after I made this topic. We both apologized for making the other feel like shit and miserable.

We're going to try a long distance relationship. Hopefully meet this year. If country and covid allows for this. It still remains to be seen.

I hope usa doesn't fall apart before I get to meet him at least once. See what comes off that and just see what works out, if we want to take it further.

Who knows if I stay there for 3 weeks or so I'll be able to hang out with some of you.