What Obama is asking would be like your employer coming to you at the end of the year and telling you to sign your name on your next employment contract, and agree to terms you fundamentally disagree with. You will be paid an unfair rate and be forced to travel away from your family, expenses not included. You are told you can negotiate the terms of your contract after you've signed your name on the dotted line.
That is simply not how our system of government works.
Those two things are not the same. If they were, it would be more like the CFO of a Fortune 500 company telling the CEO that he refuses to issue any payments on any accounts until he gets a raise, a Ferrari, a vacation home on the French Mediterranean, 6 months paid vacation every year, Sally in HR is fired, and the company renames itself to BIG BUTTS INC. The CEO says that she obviously can't and won't do any of those things, and that if he wants to talk to her about getting a raise, then he first has to go back to doing the accounting work he was hired to perform because it is vital to the operation of the company. So you think that the right thing to do is for the CFO to declare that the CEO is a totally unreasonable for being unwilling to negotiate his terms, and to continue blocking normal business transactions?
Do you really not believe that the nature and substance of the demands themselves are at all relevant to this discussion?
Let's suppose that Obama concedes and allows the House to defund the ACA. And let's suppose that the GOP wins the presidency in the next election. House Democrats declare that enough is enough and that they refuse to vote for any budget that does not fully fund the ACA. In addition, they also have the following demands:
1. Abolish the US strategic nuclear arsenal.
2. Cut military spending in half.
3. Fully subsidize planned parenthood.
4. Abolish the War on Drugs.
5. Comprehensive gun registry and assault weapons ban.
6. Double the minimum wage.
7. Pass the DREAM Act.
8. Double federal education funding.
9. Pass the Buffett Rule.
10. Shut down Guantanamo Bay.
And then add ten more things. You're telling me that you would find this proposition reasonable, and you would expect the GOP to sit down and negotiate these issues before funding our debt obligations?
And you still haven't explained what the GOP negotiating position is. A big list of demands is not good faith negotiation. It's a big list of demands.