That's very tactful advice, Wilmore.
When it comes to the ladies, most guys over think it. Be yourself. If you want to tell her then go for it. You've likely already been throwing her signals and if she hasn't given you the cold shoulder then she probably feels the same way.
I've been privy to some girly talk about boys etc... and it just confused the hell out of me. Girls make it way more complicated.
No, we don't.
Let me give you an anecdotal example from work on V-day. (I work at a grocery store.) This nervous guy was buying his girl a case of flowers and a big box of chocolate. I made some comment about sticking to the classics and he said he didn't want to screw it up. But he was getting her something so he couldn't have screwed it up. Husbands were buying their wives beer, dinner, and a card cause they know how it is.
For a girl, all that's really important is that you're thinking about her. That you took the time and made the effort, the actual gift or wording is irrelevant and will likely be forgotten.
If you like someone that you're already friends with you shouldn't worry fret so much. She already likes you enough to be your friend so that's a great start. People are usually flirting if they're into each other, you just need to pay more attention to that.
Could that be because girls are more complicated to buy for?
I have two sisters and I have a long term gf. They're not as complicated to buy for as they used to be, but I still have to scratch my head for birthdays and Christmas.
I said "girl" but this guy was in his thirties.... Females are not complicated to buy for. You either ask them and they tell you, or they don't tell you so it's not a big deal and then you just buy them something. Again, presents that aren't asked for likely won't be remembered outside of a year.
And from what I can remember from the conversation:
- Should you kiss on the first date
- If the guy wants sex on the first date does that mean he's not interested in anything else?
- If a guy doesn't contact you after a day does that mean he's not interested?
- What should you wear on the first date?
- Do I need to buy another dress?
- Why hasn't he contacted me yet it's been a few days since our first date?
- I always seem to be contacting him, is he interested?
The list goes on.
None of that is complicated at all..
1. depends on how long you've known the guy and how much you like each other.
2. it might. if a guy was hinting at sex on first date then you should not date the pig again, unless that's all you want.
3. depends on what the date is, or what the restaurant is.
4. i dunno? buy a new dress for a date? no, that's silly.
5. if it's been a few days then he's not interested, darling.
6. then stop contacting him and see if he reaches out.
see, none of that had to be over-thought. but people just get nervous and over-think things.