OBLsteve... thanks, I now understand your model.
I believe it's completely wrong though, because even you gotta switch methods when evaluating the "gravitational" effects at different surface spots and "gravitational" effects at different altitudes. In my model, I'd be happy taking the center of mass argument for both and hence get the inconsistencies in outcome that I've been discussing.
I suspect the only way we'd agree on this is if one of us (not me) went and did the math. We'd need a 3 dimensional density function for your infinite earth and we'd have to integrate over the whole volume of the earth to determine the center of mass and, if we went to that trouble, we could also modify that integral to include these gravitational effects and then see what calculus has to say about the matter.
I suspect (as I always have) that you'd be unable to have a center of mass at infinity which results in a non-zero "gravitational" effect at the surface (with finite mass). It's not clear to me that anything less than the calculus approach would convince you otherwise.
Regarding this "Gravity" and "Gravitation" debate... I do wish the FEers would be a bit more tolerant of the use. The typical FEer reacts as strongly to poor use of these words as if they were as bad as confusing "Gravity" with "Temperature", or "Taxes" or "Teapots". I would suggest that FEers gently correct careless RE use of "gravity" in responses and only get belligerent about it if the RE use is unable to be easily excused. For example, saying that "gravity" accounts for the precession of Mercury's orbit would be inexcusable. Saying REers believe "gravity" keeps us on the surface of the earth, would be OK.