I (and I suspect Divito) don't give a hoot in hell about FE vs. RE.
If mass is bending space/time, why, if the sun were to be suddenly removed, would it take 8 minutes for the earth to experience the effects? Does the earth experience the sun's gravitational attraction as the sun's position is now or is there an 8 minute delay?
Gee, maybe it's time for the two of you to find a forum dedicated to a topic about which you're passionate.
Consider a simpler analogy. Imagine a latex sheet stretched tightly over a Olympic-sized, empty swimming pool. In the center is a sphere with the weight of 10Kg, as a analog of the Sun. The sheet will stretch downward from the weight, the same way the Sun stretches space-time in another, unseen dimension. About the first weight a much smaller weight, "Earth" is moving is a circle about the first. You can imagine, I hope, that the "Earth" follows that curve created by the "Sun".
Imagine now that you reach out and lift the "Sun" off the sheet. The sheet returns to a flat(ter) state slowing starting at the center and working its way out. Earth would in short order, but not instantly, find that the sheet is flat now and go straight.
The Earth always experiences the Sun's gravity based on the mass and position of the Sun 8 minutes ago.
Good questions!